Tuesday, March 10, 2009

The Myth of the Super Black Woman


At the risk of offending women in general and black women specifically I have undertaken the task of destroying a commonly held myth by both whites and blacks. This myth has so permeated our collective conscious that it is often depicted in story and movie. This mythical black woman is often times portrayed as some super human single black mother who has overcome tremendous obstacles to raise her family despite the odds. It has given way to the belief by many that black women have some inherent strength or ability that allows them to be able to raise children successfully without men. The danger of this myth is that because of it today many black women are choosing to do precisely that. They have accepted and fostered this false belief to the point that many look at men as merely sperm donors and have no expectations of their presence in the lives of their children. Let me state unequivocally and without wavering the experiment of women raising children by themselves has failed and failed miserably.

Due to the fact that so many men have allowed themselves to be silenced by feminists today any male that in any way calls into question a woman’s desire to give birth, raise, and fail her children is considered a chauvinist. Because we have allowed women to frame the arguments surrounding family, children, and reproduction men no longer have any opportunity to take part in the discussions or analysis of these issues. Despite the propaganda of some women and the lack of concern by so-called news organizations the evidence is clear. The vast majority of children raised in single women head of households are suffering and as a result the society at large is suffering. The society is suffering because not only do these children create
social problems, but this lifestyle is growing throughout our society. Granted divorce is playing a larger and larger role in our society and creating a large number of these homes, but what is also playing a major role is the desire of women to have children without the expectation of having men in the lives of their children.

To me for a woman to deliberately have children without the expectation of having the father in that child’s life is the epitome of selfishness. With all of the empirical data we now have concerning the ill-effects of such a household on the great majority of our children it would be considered unconscionable for anyone but a woman to consider such a choice. I don’t agree with the logic that many of these children are accidents or mistakes of reckless people. If you make a mistake and have a child under these conditions that is one thing, but if you have multiple children from multiple men then this is no longer a mistake it is a lifestyle choice. The evidence is clear that not only is this detrimental to our children’s well being, but also to our nation’s well being. It is not about a woman being strong enough to raise children alone. An example would be if I break the doorknob on my door and I use some rope to open and close the door, granted that would work but that is not how the door was designed to work. No matter how I would like for it to be otherwise the fact remains I am making the best out of a bad situation. Young women who are raised in fatherless homes make up 85% of the future single unwed mothers so we are perpetuating the education, crime, and social problems into generation after generation. The proof is that in the 1960’s 20% of all black children were being raised in single mother households; today that number is almost 70%.

In spite of the rare success stories that we see on the television the truth is that most of these children grow up in and remain in poverty, they are poorly educated, and prone to criminal activity. We hear about the 15% that are successful and ignore the 85% who are not. Imagine if at your job you were 85% wrong about whatever it is you do and then not only were you not terminated but you were promoted as a success story. Black women are not genetically or culturally disposed to be able to withstand the rigors of raising children alone, no woman is. The sad part is that this is not a problem of poor or teenage women, but a choice being made by older women. The majority of new unwed mothers are women over 21. We have turned having a baby into a fashion accessory or a substitute for missing intimacy.

There will be those who criticize me for "picking" on the women, but let’s be honest women have always driven the reproduction and repopulation of the species. It was the morals of women in the 1960’s that had the rate at 20% not the morals of men. There will be those who say black women don’t have the requisite number of potential partners and my answer to that is that if black women are doing such a good job of raising these young men why are there not enough good men? Are there other external reasons for the lack of good black male suitors? Of course there is. There is racism, there is systemic marginalization of black men, and there is lack of economic development. The problem is simply this and it hasn’t changed since 1960, until we begin to stabilize our families and provide a healthy environment for our children to develop the tools they need for success all the integration, money, and opportunity won’t make a bit of difference. If we open up a door and our kids are not prepared to go through it then we all fail.

7 comments:

TheTinMan said...

Great article and site! You really have your finger on the pulse of where the decisions of our elected leaders are taking us.

I think most of our society's problems come from over-feminization. It's like a backlash against centuries of male-dominance that has swung the pendulum way too far.

Libertarians like to say liberals are like your mother, trying to take away the pain and conservatives are like your father, always telling you what to do.

Don't you think the liberal policies that give things to people, of all races, that haven't earned them, take away their independence? Programs like affirmative action and welfare seem like they rob people of their self-respect, making them dependent on someone else.

My family has been on welfare. My pride would not allow me to go to the store with the foodstamps and made me knuckle down to get off assistance.

I don't think things will get better until we all stand up and say enough is enough, we don't want the government to take care of us. What do you think?

Forgiven said...

First of all, Tin Man thank you for your comments. I appreciate dialog and I believe that as a nation we would be all better served if we were able to do more of it. I have two comments in reference to your comments.

The first is concerning the Government and helping out people through welfare and other such programs. I believe that the problem is not the government but with us in general. Because we are a consumer driven society we have convinced ourselves and the poor that their problem is that they just don't have enough stuff, that if we just got them more stuff their lives would be better. If you ask a poor person what would solve their problems the majority would say we need more stuff. How we distribute aid is unsustainable. What I mean by that is for an example every year in my city we have a coat drive to get coats to those who don't have coats in the winter. The problem with that is that if you know every year you are going to get a new coat then what do you do with your old coat in the summer. Chances are you dispose of it, so you see we now have the poor among us taking part in this disposable society. It is the same for all types of aid we distribute in this country.

The second comment I have is concerning affirmative action. While I am not a big proponent of affirmative action I believe that it has its place or some form of leveling the playing field. You cannot give one group a 300 year head start over all of the other groups in a supposed "equal society". Now while you personally may not feel that you have been granted any special privileges the history of America is replete with many examples of one group being elevated over another in employment, education, housing, etc. My question is then if not affirmative action then what? What can we do to make up for those centuries of privilege?

Layerlogic said...

Interesting blog topic. Although I am one from the majority mainstream, i have understood since high school that the US (and world) is segragated in many ways -race, religion, education, athleticism, beauty, wealth - and most times the reason for the segragation is intertwined in hundreds of years of history. That is what makes it so difficult to unravel. In reality, our social systems were built on inequality - ownership. But as you allude, we are all humans, brothers, and we all have and share the right to be human, be safe, be loved.

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Anonymous said...

Ours is an envionment where evil is perceived to be rewarded while good is punished. As with everything the Gods have a reason for creating this perception::::
People who fall on the good side of the good/evil scale have more favor, and when they do something wrong the Gods punish them BECAUSE THEY WANT THEM TO LEARN. The Gods want them to receive this feedback in hope they make corrections and begin to behave appropriately. The Gods DON'T like evil and refuse to grant this feedback.
EVERYBODY pays for what they do wrong, only evil people must wait until their next life before they will experience the wrath of the Gods, manifested in their reincarnation as a lower form of life into environments with increased/enhanced temptations.
Sadly, this allows the Gods to position this perception of evil rewarded as temptation, one which they use as an EXTREMELY effective corruptor.

Both Africa and the Medittereanean are regions which have sexual issues. This is a sign of morbid disfavor once you understand that females are the God's favored gender. Muhammad's (Mohammed's) polygamy halfway through his life as a prophet was preditory. Now a huge percentage of Muslims believes in male superiority and that the abuse of women is God's will. Female genital mutilation is still practiced in Africa. Black misogyny is the most eggregious example in the recent past.
Black member size is temptation to a predisposed population.
The patriarchal cancer spread throughout Europe because of Christianity, of which the majority of policy makers were Italian men.

Militancy in Africa is consistant with the Iraqi example, as was slavery and the KKK here in America:::Fear enforces proper behavior. Without it we see what happens as a result of gross/morbid disfavor:::::AIDS, crack babies, dead young men in gangland retaliation killings. This is the purpose behind many black's historical tendancy towards resistance.
The same principle was true in Europe and throughout the world for centuries:::People whom lived under iron fists were conditioned to think the right way. As a result they experienced higher numbers of children accend into heaven because they were taught to think and behave appropriately. Our preditory envionment of "freedom" was the primary purpose the Gods had when implimenting this strategy that is the United States, one which they used to spred the cancer of democracy and westernization throughout the world. And the Gods use this tool that is America to prey on the disfavored both at home and abroad.

Even the Old Testiment is not to be taken literally, but the Gods do offer clues throughout to help the disfavored:::The apple is a tool of temptation used to corrupt Adam and Eve and cast them out of the Garden of Eden.
There is another lesson to be learned from this passage, and it is quite similar to the vailing issue and the discourse over women's attire which ultimately died in the 70s:::Women are responsible for and control the fate of mankind.

Think about what I say. Consider what I teach. Society is going to become disturbingly ugly as we approach the Apocalypse due to spiralling, runaway disfavor.
I do not know when this will occurr, but it is the God's way to grant some time before they end on Planet Earth.
Make the decision to always be good and never look back. Until you do this technology will employ tactics to test your resolve:::Ridicule, beligerance, doubt and refusal to abandon what people perceive to be their "investment".
Pray daily. Think appropriately. Too many are confident, unaware of the God's awesome powers or their status as antients. Others may fall prey to their positioning.
Be humbled, God-fearing and beware of the God's temptations, for everyone is tested to evaluate their worthiness.

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You coward. You servant. You blind man.
Back to the front.

Anonymous said...

I think you are leaving out 50% of the problem. That is that men in general - not just blacks, have been sold a bill of goods by Hugh Hefner.

The Lothario model for male sexuality is at its acme right now.

The idea of courtship is laughable - now its all about hitting the clubs and hooking up. This glamorization of the Don Juan model was offered up in the '60's in James Bond blockbusters, then reinforced in the swinging seventies. Despite a reaction to AIDS in the 80's, the allure and really the marketing of the Lothario man has proceeded apace.

It was helped along, admittedly, by a kind of feminism that sought to reject 'patriarchy.' The liberated woman was not supposed to need a man for anything.

Still, you can't blame just 50% of the population for this problem. The myth of sexual 'liberation' cut both ways.

 
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